Do you remember her? Do you remember the little girl who enjoyed the freedom to choose her clothes for the first time? She didn't care about what anyone else thought. She wrapped herself in polka dots and stripes without pausing to consider the color scheme. She grabbed the tutu and and everyone's attention as she pirouetted with a cape twirling around her. She made us laugh and squeal with delight at the smallest things and every now and then we remember her, but somewhere along the way, we lost her. It's time to stop comparing ourselves to our friends through social media and trading our confidence in for likes.
When we teach girls to trust their own creativity, boldness, and intuition, we teach them to defy the rules, the bullies, and the peer pressure at a deeper level. Limiting beliefs are hard to break, but the earlier we catch them, the more we can help our little sisters, our daughters, and our mentees to achieve.
As Black History Month comes to a close, I have to admit I’m hopeful about the future, especially with leaders like Yara Shahidi sharing the importance of the vote, and I’m grateful for the young leaders I know who are doing what they can. As mentors and parents, we can learn a lot from the way Yara was raised to influence the young people in our lives. After all, she didn’t get into Harvard, based on her acting skills, as great as they are. How are you encouraging others to influence the world? Let’s look at a few steps we can use today.
It’s Black History Month, one of my favorite months of the year, and this year I'm thinking about those who are changing the course of history in front of our eyes! Have you heard of Marley? The founder of the #1000BlackGirlBooks Movement, youngest person to be named on the Forbes 30 Under 30 List, newest editor for Elle with an ezine of her own? We can learn a lot from Marley, so let's talk a few tips that you can use with your own daughter or mentee which I've learned from watching this young leader from afar!