It’s Black History Month, one of my favorite months of the year, and this year I'm thinking about those who are changing the course of history in front of our eyes! Have you heard of Marley? The founder of the #1000BlackGirlBooks Movement, youngest person to be named on the Forbes 30 Under 30 List, newest editor for Elle with an ezine of her own? We can learn a lot from Marley, so let's talk a few tips that you can use with your own daughter or mentee which I've learned from watching this young leader from afar!
Growing up, I butted heads with my mom a lot. I didn't recognize that she was a safe place to find comfort and help me problem solve. All that has changed now, thank God, but it was a way of life when I was growing up and it's my goal to help someone.
The more I dealt with, the more I wrote. I wrote about everything, and the sporadic thoughts, outbursts, and dreams were still there, but there were a lot more summaries of my day. I realize now that keeping a diary has also kept my sanity. Writing about the arguments that I got into with best friends, the betrayal by former boyfriends, and the disconnect I felt with my parents helped me to process my thoughts in a positive way because I was able to vent free of judgement from others. I notice that I'm more prone to share my feelings with people when I haven't journaled about them, and there's always a risk...no a guarantee that I'll hurt someone when that happens.
We become strong when we exercise, and I don’t know if it can get any more basic than that. In fact, you may be wondering why I chose to waste space to even share that point. I shared it because I want us to remember it’s important and simple. When we exercise, we become stronger. Now, I have a question for you: why do so many of experience weak relationships with our loved ones? Come on, you know what a weak relationship is: one where patience is absent and discipline is distant. One where your interactions are marked by outbursts and your time together is tense.
I recently read a book in which the author advised parents not to allow their teens to bully them. Immediately, thought after thought began to rush through my mind as if the one sentence she'd written had tipped a domino over. Are you being bullied?