I am all for routine. As a teacher, I’ve learned how much children need consistency. Consistent routines help kids and teens -even adults- feel comfortable. Consistent routines help us to feel a sense of control, as if everything isn’t falling down around us. Every now and then though, we need to break with consistency-especially with a week as many of us have had. Whether you have experienced a recent tragedy or know someone who has, don’t be afraid to throw away the routine!
There has been so much pain and fear moving through our community here in Las Vegas, first with the shooting, and now with the threats that have begun entering our school, and we need to address it! We need to talk about it. We need to feel the emotion that rises up within us. We need to feel heard as we process through everything. Yesterday, we used the first half hour of the Colorfully Candid Book Club to process our emotions and it helped.
Yes, homework has to get done. Yes, school and work are important. Yes, dishes have to be washed. Yes, bedrooms have to be cleaned. AND YES, it will still be there tomorrow. Our children and our teens are feeling so much sadness, so don’t miss the opportunity to share that you care by taking a break and showing love to each other. We can tell one another that we love each other all day, but our actions speak much more loudly. Let’s make up our minds to show it today. Need help handling the conversation?
- Suggest a change in the routine. “You know, instead of going straight home and getting to the homework, let’s have a snack. Together. Without our phones.”
- Talk about the events of the day. What happened? What did you think might happen? How do you feel now?
- Take as much time as you need. Everything else can wait.
- End on a high note with gratitude. Take turns saying what you are grateful for and feel the tension lighten.
I love you all, and I’m praying with you through this. I’d love to know your thoughts.