I love that January is National Mentoring Month because it’s so important to the fulfillment of our goals. It can really help us accomplish those goals that we set at the beginning of the year through the accountability we gain-if we maximize those relationships, that is. Tweens and teens have a variety of mentors available to them in teachers, coaches, youth leaders, and older siblings, but in order to maximize those relationships and make the most out of them, you have to help them monitor the relationships!
When I was in high school, I didn’t see the importance of mentorship because I was too worried about other stuff. Hello! That is the point! When you’re worried about “other stuff,” mentors can help you navigate it. If you are looking for more reasons why mentorship is so important, read the last article titled “Five Reasons Your Daughter Needs a Mentor,” and then share them with her! Sometimes, we really don’t know what we need because we just don’t know what’s available to us.
After graduation from college, I really suffered to keep in contact with various mentors because I overanalyzed it and failed to monitor the relationship. I thought of different excuses to use instead of reaching out, such as, ‘she’s too busy,’ ‘she was just being nice,’ or ‘she doesn’t remember me anyway,’ but it’s time to debunk the myths!
Myth #1: Your daughter’s mentor is too busy. The truth is her mentor is busy. That’s why you chose her. She’s busy getting stuff done. She’s busy influencing the world. She’s busy making money. The difference is: she’s not too busy. She agreed to be your daughter’s mentor so remind your daughter to check in with her. Keeping in contact can be intimidating at first, but a funny meme or a quick note asking how they are doing is all that’s needed. Nothing serious. Don’t overthink it.
Myth #2: Your daughter doesn’t have the time. It’s important that you show your daughter the power in setting her own schedule, instead of being manipulated by the schedule and the demands of others. The truth is, your daughter needs to learn how to add value to others, because she’ll get the most out of her relationship when she shows she cares about her mentor as well. Teach her how to show up. This can be hard with time restrictions, scheduling, and money, but show up in any way you can by taking advantage of the info that her mentor has to give by registering for the event, reading the book, or attending the event to which she’s been invited.
Myth #3: Mentors are mind readers. Remember, mentors are not mind readers. They’re not going to be in tune with what’s going on 100% of the time and call or text at the perfect moment. Remind your daughter to reach out and ask for advice. The mentor will feel as if she’s valued in your daughter’s life and that she has something to give.
Your daughter’s mentor may not respond 100% of the time. After all, life happens-to everyone! Keeping in contact will keep your daughter at the forefront of her mind though, and when opportunities for scholarships, special outings, or fun, extracurricular events are made availale, your daughter will be one of the first to whom she offers those special things. Mentors make life easier. After all, the Bible shares that Godly counsel leads to wisdom, life, and the very best things we can access. Let’s keep the conversation open so comment below!