The holidays are here! I hope you’re as excited as I am, but just in case you’re wondering about how to spend your time with your daughter and thinking of ideas, I’ve got one…or four…for you!
Moms are our first teachers, and my mom taught me how to read long before I actually went to kindergarten. Growing up, she invited me to read to her and she developed my love for books by taking my brother and me to the library to have fun picking out books with matching puppets and DVDs. As I grew up, my taste in books changed and so I began to explore various topics independently through the books I grabbed. Moms, can I tell you, that there are some books that should be censored just like there are some movies that should be censored?! That’s the subject of a different article though…
The books I read dealt with everything from violence to sex and everything in between, and I learned a lot. The only problem is that many of the opinions I developed were based on my own interpretation of the stuff I read and they weren’t always appropriate.
I founded Colorfully Candid Book Club because books are a crazy easy way to jump start a conversation about a hard topic and it can help you bond with your daughter or mentee at the same time! I know the last thing that your daughter may want to do on VACATION from school is read, but if you take the time to download Wappad or go to the bookstore/library together and make it fun, you may be surprised by how much you can coerce her to do! Don’t be afraid to require her to do it. We daughters have to be made to do things we don’t want to do from time to time! LOL!
Remember the following tips to make it easier:
Let her choose the book, regardless of the length. Agree early that if it’s a short story, you may choose a second BUT if it’s lengthier, find a prize to wait for you on the other side!
If she’s still having a problem picking a book, think about what type of issues she’s dealing with or the things she enjoys and move from there. If you need a recommendation, I’m here for you!
Has your teen ever had issues with transition? Like most, I’m sure she has. Transitions can be hard and scary. Uncertainty in the future is intimidating at times-especially for teenage girls. Enter This Side of Home by Renee Watson, a book I recommend you check out with your teen for the holiday break if this struggle touches something within your household or small group.
Growing up, my mother influenced me to talk to a mentor or someone who could stand in that place when she recognized that I wouldn’t open up to her. What happens when your teen doesn’t have someone positive to talk to about the stress she’s under? Pick up The Face on the Milk Carton by Caroline B. Cooney. Even though I read this book when I was in middle school, the book is so timeless, I was delighted to see that the teens I mentor loved it every bit as much as I did.
“You will never be as pretty as her.” Mean thoughts and negative self talk can pierce the heart and self esteem of any tween or teen girl and it ultimately affects the way we interact with others. Enter Skinny by Donna Cooner, one of the best books I’ve ever read with The Colorfully Candid Book Club. If you have a daughter or a mentee who you believe may be dealing with poor self esteem and depression, this book is an excellent resource to help you tackle those issues!
“What did I do?” What should I have done differently?” and, “what’s wrong?” are just a few questions that stay on the mind of a teen girl who’s just lost her best friend. Friendships shift dramatically freshman year in high school, and it’s even harder to deal with when you battle the feelings of rejection that accompany it. So many girls fail to realize that the change in their friendships has less to do with them and more to do with the person who’s changed than they realize and it hurts like crazy. Order One Chance to Live Young: The First Colorfully Candid Diary, written by yours truly.
I love you all and I’d love to know what’s working for you! How do you bond with your daughter?