I am all for routine. As a teacher, I've learned how much children need consistency. Consistent routines help kids and teens -even adults- feel comfortable. Consistent routines help us to feel a sense of control, as if everything isn't falling down around us. Every now and then though, we need to break with consistency-especially with a week as many of us have had. Whether you have experienced a recent tragedy or know someone who has, don't be afraid to throw away the routine!
Want to open up the conversations between you and your daughter so that you feel invited into her life instead of just a bystander, nervously watching and waiting to see what the outcome will be? Get involved and take this challenge! Your home should be a safe place that's fun for the entire family, and I've got tips that will ease your mind about what your daughter does when she leaves the house.
Growing up, I envied some of my best friends and the relationships they had with their moms. When it came to my mom and me, I was that character named Can't-Get-Right. Opening up to my mom was unchartered territory. What if my mom didn't think I was funny or like to laugh at the same stuff I do? What if she thought I was silly or stupid or worse? What if life got worse when I let her in? My thoughts were irrational and unjustified, but they were my thoughts so they became my reality.
Boundaries make all of us feel safe, and teens are no exception to the rule. That being said, there are still checks you need to put into place to ensure that our girls are safe at all times. This world is a scary place and there are ways to ensure your teen enjoys privacy without compromising her safety. Read the three tips you can use if your teen wants more privacy and does not like to keep a diary.
We become strong when we exercise, and I don’t know if it can get any more basic than that. In fact, you may be wondering why I chose to waste space to even share that point. I shared it because I want us to remember it’s important and simple. When we exercise, we become stronger. Now, I have a question for you: why do so many of experience weak relationships with our loved ones? Come on, you know what a weak relationship is: one where patience is absent and discipline is distant. One where your interactions are marked by outbursts and your time together is tense.